Many couples’ arguments stem from a common problem: women don’t feel loved, and men don’t feel respected.
These perspectives are often shaped by gender, which can lead to misunderstandings in a marriage. A wife may think her husband is being aloof when he just wants to spend time alone. And a husband might feel disrespected when a wife is simply trying to share how she feels.
Part of a happy marriage is learning to have faith in a spouse’s warm regard, instead of interpreting individual actions as hostile. Another strategy is for spouses to admit that their personal perceptions of a situation may be wrong or incomplete. It’s always helpful to try to see things from the other person’s point of view.
Offering your spouse unconditional love and respect requires patience and hard work. It isn’t always easy, but it’s well worth the effort. For more on the secret formula to marital bliss, check out our Instaread on Love & Respect.