When you’re single, it seems like everyone has dating advice. Sometimes it’s easy to get lost in a sea of red flags describing who to avoid. But no one’s perfect, which means we have to allow room for flaws — including our own.
Instead, Pay Attention
Protecting yourself is crucial in a relationship, which means paying attention to what actually matters. Focus on how consistently the other person invests in the relationship. Early in a relationship, attention can be intoxicating, but it’s dangerous to confuse this with genuine intention. Attention is just energy in the moment, whereas intention shows a real desire to see where things could go.
