You’re never going to get what you want in life when you’re trying too hard to be nice.
That’s the view of Dr. Robert A. Glover, who says that “Nice Guy Syndrome” is ruining the lives and relationships of too many modern men.
Nice Guy Syndrome isn’t about regular kindness (which is always appreciated). It’s about being “nice” to a fault: seeking other people’s approval, repressing your real feelings, and hiding your flaws.
Pretending to be something you’re not can lead to all kinds of maladaptive behaviors, including dishonesty, secrecy, and manipulation. That makes it hard to build relationships, especially romantic ones.
How do you beat Nice Guy Syndrome? The best treatment is simply self-acceptance. If you can recognize your mistakes as learning opportunities, prioritize your emotional needs, and seek help when you need it, you’ll be well on your way.
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