Often, we imagine that if we do everything perfectly, we can avoid blame, judgment, and shame. But the truth is that, more often than not, perfectionism makes us feel bad about ourselves. The best way to acknowledge your mistakes and imperfections is to practice self-compassion. Treat yourself the way you’d treat a good friend, offering the […]
How to Stay Wealthy, No Matter What
People should make investment decisions based on their goals and the characteristics of investment options available to them. But economists have found that people’s investment decisions are heavily anchored to personal and generational experiences. That means your upbringing, social status, and other factors will shape how you choose to invest. While your background is sure to […]
Are You Too Hard on Yourself?
It’s easier to accept imperfections in others than in ourselves. The most enlightened among us resist spiritual growth, even when we know it’s for the best. We all experience bouts of pettiness and moments of self-doubt and cowardice. It’s normal to feel jealous of other people’s good fortune, and lash out at loved ones at inopportune […]
How to Renew Your Focus
Are you finding that it’s more difficult than ever to clear your mind? You might want to try thinking like a monk. Monks try to live free of ego and strong emotions like envy, lust, anxiety, anger, and bitterness. An important step in reaching that goal is to let go of external influences and fears […]
Two Things You Need to Know About Marriage
Many couples’ arguments stem from a common problem: women don’t feel loved, and men don’t feel respected. These perspectives are often shaped by gender, which can lead to misunderstandings in a marriage. A wife may think her husband is being aloof when he just wants to spend time alone. And a husband might feel disrespected […]
You Need this to Succeed
2020 has driven home the lesson that life is full of circumstances that are beyond our control. But we can always control the attitude we take towards our circumstances. In You Can Win, self-help author Shiv Khera argues that attitude is an important element of finding success. Your mindset is a powerful tool that shapes how […]
How to Break Free
Glennon Doyle was tired of trying to pretend that she was the person who others wanted her to be. She didn’t want to reconcile with the husband who had cheated on her. She didn’t want to follow her marriage counselor’s advice. She didn’t want to write the memoir that her readers were expecting. So finally, […]
Don’t Work Hard. Work Smart.
Most work is about quality over quantity. If you’re working long hours every day, every week, you might not be working intelligently enough. Underearners often think they’ll never make high wages because it would require a superhuman amount of hard work. But the real secret to success is to be a high earner while setting […]
What Are the Molecules of Emotion?
You know that the mind and the body are deeply connected. But did you realize that the way we feel—our emotions—aren’t necessarily dictated by the mind? For a long time, scientists believed that the brain was the control center for human emotions. But then they learned that emotions are also conveyed through informational substances like […]
How to Endure Anything
Acceptance means letting go of trying to control thoughts and feelings. People often believe that they can create the life they want only when they have overcome a psychological hindrance, like fear or depression. They’re wrong—and this false expectation might be holding them back. As counterintuitive as it might sound, psychological pain should be embraced, […]
