In dating, you need to set boundaries. If a relationship isn’t a win-win for both people, it’s never worth pursuing. The first rule is to never sell yourself short. Giving up things that are important to you—the things that make you who you are—just looks unattractive and undignified. So don’t do it. Another rule of […]
Does Group Therapy Work?
Christie Tate just wanted to cease existing. She had no good reasons for it, and didn’t know whether she wanted to act on the thoughts or not. On the advice of a friend, she joined a therapy group—and the experience changed her life. Tate found a therapist, Dr. Jonathan Rosen. He pushed her to be […]
How to Be Cool
Step One: You have to put in the effort. Matthew McConaughey had to work hard at being cool. To get people’s attention in Hollywood, he couldn’t just let a fancy red sports car do the work. He had to be fun and engaging. Before McConaughey was an actor, he was in film school. But he realized […]
Why You Need Trust in Business
Building strong, trusting relationships quickly is important to every organization. Why? Because mistakes won’t matter as much when both parties know what the other really means. Keep in mind that there are no shortcuts; creating trust in a relationship can never be rushed or faked. Trusting relationships require continuous, conscious work on both sides. Good […]
How Facebook Makes Its Money
They know everything about us. And we know very little about them. The internet was created to help people share information and communicate. But now companies like Google, Facebook, Amazon, and Apple are using the internet to spy on people, find out what they want, and then use that information to sell them things. This […]
Why Beliefs Are Resistant to Change
Most of us regard our beliefs as rational. More often, though, moral reasoning is more like a politician than a scientist: it seeks justification and support, not the truth. This bias means that we’re heavily inclined to assume that our beliefs are correct—even when presented with evidence that proves otherwise. Psychologists call this phenomenon confirmation […]
Why the Numbers Won’t Lie
Sometimes opinions just aren’t enough. To truly understand the status of your company at any given moment, you need hard data. Perhaps you’ve heard the old saying that what gets measured gets managed. Seeking out data is always the first step in improving a process. Therefore tracking the right numbers for your company is a […]
Do You Know Your Next Five Moves?
In chess, there are two kinds of players: those who see the next move, and those who see many moves ahead. Business operates according to the same principle. People who only plan for tomorrow are short-sighted. You must always have your next five moves in mind. Why five moves (and not six, or ten)? Because […]
Are We Coddling Our Kids?
On average, today’s college freshmen have met fewer developmental goals than previous generations. Kids in most countries are safer today than they were at any other point in history. Yet for a variety of reasons, American parents seem to believe that children should never be without adult supervision. By shielding kids from every risk they […]
Blueprint for a Better Life
While Siri (and Google, and Alexa) can instantly answer almost any question, they don’t know anything about our emotional lives. We all ask each other “How are you?” seemingly countless times a day. It’s become such a reflex that we rarely notice when we say it, and almost never give an accurate answer. We don’t expect, […]
